Imperfectly Fabulous

Is it me or is January the official month of “I suck” and “I’m not good enough?”  Yep, this is the time of year when many of us focus on physical flaws and imperfections.  And, too often, that focus becomes negative and obsessive.

It’s really no wonder that we are dissatisfied with ourselves when all methods of media repeatedly tell us that we got it wrong:  We are too fat, too old and not hip enough.  Sadly, even those who are thin enough, young enough and hip enough don’t believe it.

Though I expect the “lose weight now” and “make yourself over” media blitz at the beginning of each new year, it still somehow manages to take me by surprise.  There’s more and more in-your-face advertising that I don’t care to see.  Because these adds don’t inspire so much as serve as a reminder that the population at large falls short of society’s ideal.

So I propose that instead of fixating on the real or imagined things we don’t have, should have or need to get, we look at what we do have ~ and celebrate it.  Yeah.  This time around, let’s focus on the fabulous!

Easier said than done, I know.  But once you acknowledge that we are all fabulous in our own, distinct way, it suddenly gets a lot easier.  Here’s why:

Life is not fair; assets are not evenly distributed; it’s a total genetic crap-shoot.

I got what I got; you got what you got; they got what they got.  Considering the infinite possibilities of DNA combination structuring (hey, scientists have been trying to crack the code for decades), it’s far beyond “apples to oranges.”

So let’s quit comparing ourselves to one another and move on.  Because when we stop trying to measure up to something that was never “even” to begin with, we’re free to discover our own fabulosity.

Nobody walks down the same path.

Your personal journey makes you who you are.  Go ahead and make your choices. Some will resolve exactly how you hoped; others, not so much.

Life is not a merit system.  And the only real control you have over anything is your reaction to it.

All you can do is roll with it, rise to whatever occasions come your way and accept that the difficult moments nourish your inner fabulosity.

Nobody’s perfect.

We’ve been told over and over that we are less than perfect.  Given the fact that it’s impossible to achieve true perfection in anything, why is this message a surprise or even a concern?

Yes, certainly be the best you can be.  Make whatever improvements you can because they benefit your health or help you feel better about yourself.

Then stop.  Know that the changes you’ve made are good enough. Once you let yourself off the hook, you’re free to fully embrace your outer fabulosity.

Pretty cool, huh?

So savor and celebrate the things you like best about yourself.  Don’t play coy; you know what they are.  You’ve resisted reveling in them for far too long ~ mostly because you’ve been too darned busy worrying about less fabulous things.  Stop. Enjoy. Focus on your personal fabulosity and be happy.


  1. Cat says

    I really have found that the older I get, the less self-conscious I am about my appearance. I mean, I still care about looking nice, but now it truly is more for myself than for others. I want to like what I see in the mirror, but I don’t feel the terrible anxiety I used to feel when I didn’t think I looked good enough, and I spend almost no time worrying or even wondering about what other people think of my appearance. It has been so liberating, and I feel a thousand times more fabulous than I did when I was younger!

  2. Pam says

    I love this post. I love everything about this post. Thank you.

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